Excessive parental control can be hard to endure. Analyze the effects
“Parents are going to ludicrous lengths to take the bumps out of life for their children. However, parental hyper concern has the net effect of making kids more fragile; that may be why they're breaking down in record numbers” quoted by Hara Estroff Marano from Psychology Today. Parental control is undeniably what our current generation needs in order for a harmonious, successful and happy life, but unfortunately there are also some parents who seem to go overboard in protecting their children. This may lead to certain complications in their lives. Excessive parental control means the unrestrained control of parents over their children’s lives making it hard for them to endure as it effects their personal development, behavior, and health.
Excessive parental control can affect personal development when growing up due to restrictions that are forced upon a children’s life. One of the reasons for this is because of the inability of these children to make mistakes .Most of us grow up and mature because we tend to learn from our mistakes. It is one of the most primitive yet effective ways used for centuries in order to become wise. When every movement of the child is carefully planned the probability for mistakes being made decreases and therefore with less mistakes are being made, less lessons are learned from them just as said by child psychologist David Elkind, professor at Tufts University "Kids need to feel badly sometimes,". These children would also seem to have a lower degree of social skills compared to the other children that lead well-balanced lives. This is simply because these parents would tend to not allow their children to engage in any social activities mainly because they worry that their child will be exposed to drugs and alcohol. The judgment level of these kids in decision-making may be compromised as most decisions have been made by their parents thus giving them little in handling challenging situations.
Another effect of excessive parental control may become apparent during adolescent years as they experience a change in behavior and become rebellious. After a certain amount of time the children will feel that they have had enough from their overbearing parents and rebel against them. This is probably because teenagers fell trapped as every one of their movements are being controlled. Perceptions of a home for these teens will also change from a sanctuary to a maximum security prison. Teenagers may also try to stay away from home which is potentially more dangerous for the safety of the individual. They may also struggle to maintain friendships, peer groups and social environments outside their home as these parents not only control the movements of their child but their friend’s too. As a cause teenagers may be ignored and feel depressed due to the increase in his or her problems in life. Things may get worse when every aspect of their lives and privacy are invaded. For example, some parents will go to the extent of placing cameras in every corner of the house to monitor their children which will eventually result in potential emotional problems.
The child may also experience heath issues, due to excessive parental control. These children receive very little exposure to their surroundings consequently making them vulnerable. For example because they lack exposure to certain foods their stomach may not be able to tolerate new food intakes resulting in stomach ailments. Due to the amount of time they spent at home the amount of exercise done outdoors is considerably limited. Though exercises can be done indoors it is quite essential for a growing child to play sports outdoors as well. This is because sports like soccer, basketball and of such will help to not only tone the entire body but also promotes one’s solidarity skills which are necessary. Parents who take too much control over dietary planning risk forcing their children into immoral behavior. For example, when parents disallow children to consume foods like chocolate, burgers and of such these children will resort to other ways to get what they want by lying, stealing or extorting which could eventually lead to physical violence.
For centuries, a parents ultimate dream is for their offspring to have a much better life than they did. They expect their child to become successful, intellectual and charming pressuring them with multiple expectations to fulfill just so that we can be satisfied with our own selves. Little do we know that behind those cute, cuddly faces there is a voice unheard, screaming out with all its might wanting to be set free of their chains to become whole by his or her individual means. To finish, I conclude that excessive parental control may effect one’s personal development, behavior and health along with a quote by David Elkind "We focus so much on our own children, It's time to begin caring about all children."
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that`s so true!!!
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